The Kiss: Mine was totally awkward! Also, think: make-up! A nice buss? A sexy dip with the kiss? A heart-felt peck? Take a minute or two to plan it. Just a little. But in the heat - of - the - moment, if things turn out differently than planned, that's okay too :)
The Walk up (and down) the Aisle: Tradition is for all the guys to walk on the right side, elbow bent at 90ยบ, left hand in a loose fist on abdomen; and for all the gals on the left, with right arm threading from behind and resting on his left arm. Traditionally everyone walks at a normal, relaxed pace. The Bride usually walks slower, because of the dress, the shoes, and the sheer emotional thrill and surprise of it all. That said, feel free to bring your own personality into it. If you and your wedding party love to dance, maybe you should dance!
The First Dance: Not a must, but practicing your first dance can help tremendously. It will help you put on a great show and help you decide how to do that (sometimes awkward) segue of getting the parents and then all the guests out on the floor.
Fee's (and other things) the Guests might not be expecting: Keep your guests, and ALL people involved, in the loop. What kind of drive will they expect to the venue? Will it be somewhere where an access fee is required? What kind of shoes should they wear? (Will they be aerating the lawn with their stilletos? I recommend to bring an extra pair of shoes.) Is the area known to be very windy? ...
Wedding Location Surprises: You are expecting grass, but get astroturf. Should the venue have kept you apprised? I think so, but that doesnt make it reality... check in periodically with the people you are counting on for the perfect wedding. Maybe even visit the location before the date, if you can, just to make sure all is coming according to plan.
Ask the Photographer questions: will they be there at your beck-and-call, or will they have to leave, and miss important moments. A great photographer will gently remind you of what YOU said were important pictures to take. They will then, unobtrusively, remind you of the flow as the event unfolds. Invite guests to take a lot of pictures, too – just in case.
How can you be prepared for anything (and everything)? Control what you can. Let go of the rest.
Remember you will have to be spontaneous. Things happen. Reality is reality, no matter if it's against the grain of "How it SHOULD be!" After all, your sanity is more important than any little (or big) snafu. Take care of yourself. Strive to see all in a positive light.
A little planning, can go a long way. Even "full-on choreography" can be fun and useful. It helps you set the stage, even if everything manifests completely differently than planned.You'll be more relaxed and excited if you have a plan. You'll even be MORE prepared for the things that go awry, when you have a plan but stay flexible. Insert yourself, your personality, into your event by putting forethought into even the littlest of things.
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